JOE puts speed dating to the test
JOE has grown tired of vain attempts to meet women in pubs and clubs. We put speed dating to the test as a means of hooking up.
Confidence is the key to success, but even the most self-assured among us shouldn't expect a cake walk at a speed dating event - members of the opposite sex will test you in varying ways during your brief five minute encounter.
At first, itâ€™s a daunting experience for the cockiest of cocky individuals â€“ a characteristic my fellow JOEâ€™s have branded me with in recent times. However, once a scan of the room eradicated all apprehension triggered by the prospect meeting someone I knew, I felt a wave of renewed confidence and became excited at a chance of some work-related, guilt-free flirting with the opposite sex.
It is a buzz, isnâ€™t it? That instant connection with a woman. The exchanging of rueful smiles and the slight nervousness breaking through conversation. In fact, there seemed to be a connection at some level with practically every second woman I chatted with while making my rounds of the room. Not a bad return to start with.
If youâ€™ve never heard of speed dating before, it involves the men rotating from table to table for a five-minute chat with every woman. You canâ€™t skip any of them. Well, you can, but it would look pretty lousy.
Fifteen v fifteen is the norm at a standard speed dating night. The ClickDating.ie event I attended had just that, as well as a reserved area away from the glaring eye of the Friday night party-goers. This immediately takes the pressure off as you donâ€™t have randomers just strolling through the room while you do your best to impress.
Thereâ€™s a wide variety of looks, personalities and levels of intelligence in attendance at a speed dating event so there is very much something for everyone.
The strike rate
Not everyone will find their future wife at at event, although I know one confirmed married couple who met through speed dating. In my case, I met some sound and good-looking women. They ticked all the right boxes and ultimately got a tick on my score card â€“ four women out of 15 to be exact. If the women youâ€™ve ticked give a tick in return, then you both receive each otherâ€™s contact details via email from the event organisers. Thatâ€™s how it works and itâ€™s up to you after that.
In terms of the types of women I met and spoke with, there was a large cross-section. Teachers and managerial types, quirky and boring. Again, just like the looks category, they vary from one extreme to the other. The positive news is that thereâ€™s someone for everyone, provided you keep an open-mind and be honest about yourself.
From the four women I gave a tick to I was informed that three of them had also ticked my box. A 75 per cent strike rate is more than I expected to be honest. Now, with boxes ticked on both sides and contact details arriving, the next step would be to tee-up a second date. Iâ€™m giving it serious consideration.
ClickDating.ie organise speed dating events all over Ireland. To find out where the next event closest to you is on, click here. ClickDating.ie are offering a 20% discount to all JOE.ie readers with the voucher code: LuckyJOE