Most Irish men, and men all over the world for that matter, shudder when it comes to giving oral sex. Confidence, knowledge of techniques and reading body language can all be earmarked as reasons for being orally challenged. We're here to help, with a guide to giving her oral sex.
Sometimes we need to think outside of our own needs and desires. I’m not talking like a pussy-whipped partner here guys because, if you think about, indirectly we will reap the rewards of performing cunnilingus (aka oral sex).
It also doesn’t have to be an insurmountable chore which you can’t bear facing into if you plan ahead and put some effort in.
The better the experience is for her, the better you’ll feel after you’re done. Satisfaction leads to gratification and we all know that showing gratefulness is best done by action. You’ll win out in the end, see.
Anyway, we’re here to help with a guide to giving her oral sex.
1. Have fun
First off, this is not a test. You won’t be graded out of 10 and your lady has probably had more bad experiences that climactic experiences down under.
Don’t just dive straight down and heap all the pressure on her clitoris – that will irritate her and instantly turn her off. Be smooth, be interested and explore. Your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body, so use it to good effect.
Remember that your tongue is naturally lubricated with saliva and has much more dimension that your penis. Begin slowly, thrusting your tongue inside her vagina every now and then but take breaks to explore the terrain down there.
Gently increase the pressure on her clitoris but respond to her body language. Remember that your tongue can drive her wild due to the heightened sensations it creates better than your penis.
You can talk to her as you take your breaks but don’t turn it into a full-blown conversation and or ask what happened in Home & Away. Have confidence in yourself and keep the fun element to it at all times.
2. Finding the clitoris
All of the above advice might sound great but what if you don’t know where to find the clitoris, never mind what to do with it?
The clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening to her vagina, at the top of her inner labia. Clitoris size and shape differs from woman to woman, but it is generally between 1/8 to 3/8 of an inch in size. It’s as sensitive as your penis so bear this in mind before you lunge.
For most women to orgasm, clitoral stimulation is essential. Thrusting your tongue in and out for 5 or 10 minutes just isn’t going to cut it, unless your tongue is surprisingly sharp, in which case, don't.
3. The best position
Forget about what you’ve seen in porn movies, cowboy oral is for the pros. And anyway, the missionary style position works best as you have more control of what’s about to happen.
She needs to lie on her back with her legs spread apart and her knees slightly bent. Get down on your stomach between her legs and slide your arms under her legs and wrap them around. You should then be in a comfortable position for maneuvering.
You could also put your hands under her behind if you prefer to elevate her more towards your face but you need to have the strength to hold her up for the duration. If she's a big girl you could prop her up with a pillow.
Finally, you can bring her behind to the edge of the bed while you give her oral sex. Have her rest her feet on your shoulders or on the edge of the bed as well, and you'll have plenty of access while you kneel in front of her. Sounds tricky, but worthwhile.
Once you’ve built up some steam and you know you’re doing something right it’s time to introduce some techniques. Basic ones, mind you. You don’t need to become a hero right away.
You’ve already been working on the clitoris, so now it’s time move it up a gear. With her clitoris still exposed, give it quick little sucks by enveloping it with your mouth momentarily and releasing it. This is a sure way of rattling her cage.
Next, take her clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it while you simultaneously flick your tongue over and around it. It may be tricky to execute the first time, so take your time and if it’s not working just go back a step.
You can perform this oral technique very lightly or aggressively, depending on what she likes. Again, her reactions will be an indication.
5. Use your fingers
If you feel confident enough, introducing a finger or two in these oral sex techniques should blow her mind.
Effectively, what you’ve already been doing is French kissing her clitoris and now it’s time to massage a little at the same time. It’s an advanced technique and if you’re not taking her further down the pleasure trail it’s best to go back to the basics. We’re not accredited for our multi-tasking skills, so if you pull this off you’ll be an oral sex god.
Anyway, to press ahead. Make sure that you're not thrusting your fingers too deep or too fast. You might also want to use your finger to rub her G-Spot; it's not a myth by the way - it's the rough-feeling portion of flesh located on the anterior wall of the vagina.