We men get a bad press when it comes to infidelity. But according to Claire Tully, this just shows that women are better at getting away with playing away.
If your girlfriend is cheating on you then you probably wonâ€™t have a clue about it. If on the other hand, youâ€™ve suddenly started thinking sheâ€™s doing a lot more than window shopping, chances are youâ€™re just a bit insecure.
You see itâ€™s not that women donâ€™t cheat â€“ we do, almost as much as men in fact. The big difference is we just donâ€™t get caught.
Of course when most people think of infidelity in a relationship, they automatically think of the man as being the unfaithful one. Out to sow his seed and incapable of resisting anything in a skirt with a heartbeat. When a relationship collapses we rarely jump to the conclusion it was the womanâ€™s roaming eye to blame.
The thing is women are natural-born liars. From an early age weâ€™re trained to lie and we do it without a second thought. It might just be saying we had a lovely time when we didnâ€™t or that someone looked nice when they didnâ€™t, but in our defence we do it because we donâ€™t want to make someone feel bad.
Worse for men
And we can safely say finding out about an affair would make a guy feel bad - arguably worse than many women do because we at least have some sort of expectation that this might happen.
Most unfaithful men will laugh in amusement when asked if their girlfriends have ever cheated on them.
A friend of mine recently remarked â€œItâ€™s an insanely absurd question! I mean, why in Godâ€™s name would SHE, cheat on ME?!â€
Well sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if a girl is cheating on you itâ€™s usually for one of the following reasons: (a) You donâ€™t make her feel sexy and loved, (b) itâ€™s genetic or (c) she just wants you to dump her because sheâ€™s too lazy to do it herself. None of which bode well for the partner.
Beautiful women ARE more likely to cheat... and of course, theyâ€™re not short on offers.
Men on the other hand cheat because they want sex. Sex, sex and more sex, with a little bit of sex on top. Itâ€™s physical, itâ€™s an instant thrill and they want it simply because itâ€™s there.
Interestingly, on the day after Motherâ€™s Day there are more female subscribers to dating websites than any other day of the year. So yeah, forgetting her flowers or not making a big fuss will come back and bite you in the ass.
And to make things even worse for all you trophy-girlfriend idolising guys out there, beautiful women ARE more likely to cheat â€“ because they have higher levels of oestrogen, the hormone that plays a role in gifting them their fabulous figures and looks. Women with high levels are more likely to be unsatisfied with their current partner, therefore more prone to cheat on them when the opportunity arises. And of course, theyâ€™re not short on offers.
An interesting figure shows up to 15% of children havenâ€™t been fathered by the man who thinks he has. But when you think about who is to blame, well men donâ€™t want to think women cheat and women donâ€™t want them to know they cheat.
So I suppose itâ€™s no surprise then that when it comes to affairs men really are the last to know.