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Published 07:00 25 Aug 2018 BST
Updated 17:11 24 Aug 2018 BST

Those tiresome tropes of a liberal agenda still persist. Dublin 4 doesn’t know Ireland, the real Ireland! The on-its-knees-poor-abused-and-denigrated Ireland, where people quite willingly collaborated in a theocratic dictatorship of the masses, where fear and shame were weaponised. As if the real Ireland involves sitting in a potato patch plucking at a banjo, singing 'Hail, Holy Queen', when Mary McAleese is from Belfast and Tara Flynn is proudly from Kinsale.
The reality is that the ‘real Ireland’ moved on in the last 39 years: Homosexuality was decriminalised, divorce was legalised, marriage equality was legalised and then, perhaps most remarkably, the Eighth Amendment, the enduring achievement of the Catholic right in Ireland to keep change at bay and women in their place, was repealed.
The revolution wasn’t violent, it wasn’t unreasonable. At the ballot box, the change happened because the voiceless – the women of Ireland, the poor, the marginalised – finally found their voice. Without prejudice to personal preferences, a majority of people spoke up because some things are nobody’s damn business and some choices are hard enough to make and live with, without the judgment, the shame and the legal stitch-ups.
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The conversation moved subtly on in the last referenda. True, many paid lip service to the old shibboleths of Irish Catholic life, but really kept their counsel. Engaging in ambiguity means employing a holding pattern in our discourse; meanwhile, we get our heads around what we really think. What we thought was that our reliance on the church wasn’t working for us.
If the church wants to have a role in Irish life, it needs to clean house of the shower of zealots and nabobs who torpedo the attempts at constructive engagement by genuinely considered and realistic people on all sides, like Mary McAleese and Diarmuid Martin, with the Ireland of the here and now. They might see that the pluralist society we are now is one where the church has common cause with many other groups.
And for its own selfish survival, it has to jettison the lie of God’s selective love, the absurd thinking is that in the end, you’ll only be loved by God if you have good frontage and a pathological love of Frank Patterson.
Mattie McGrath’s childish little outburst that Mary McAleese ‘get off the stage’ was a particularly ugly mask slipping: God, weren’t women better when they lived in silent misery like those aul’ wans in the short stories you hear on the Radio One’s Sunday Miscellany, staring out the window and wishing they’d left Ballinrobe whilst making the ‘sangidges’ and hoping their daughters have a better time? The sooner the church realises these supposed defenders of the church are the worst kinds of enablers, the better, because they are killing it.
I don’t want to borrow anyone’s anger, but I saw my dad suffer for his art, for speaking truth to power. The Ireland he operated in 30 odd years ago was a small market and most doors were closed. Keeping the wolves on the right side of our own front door was its own battle.
Even still, no amount of money could ever change the psychological scars of the creepy hurt-you-love-you dystopia of the Ireland of his childhood, where any divergent views had to be suppressed by any means necessary. Remarkably, he was spiritual and retained his own peculiar respect for Catholicism, if not for the juju men who ran it.
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