For anyone struggling on the app…
You’ve the difficult part over with, you’ve been deemed attractive enough/interesting enough to warrant a right swipe and a match along with a potential conversation if you don’t put your foot in it.
Then you get the yips, and you cannot think of the right line which is the perfect combination of witty, clever and self-deprecating to convince your potential future wife that you’re interesting, intelligent and mysterious… that’s what women want right?
But then again, the whole process would be so much easier for you if your match took the initiative and sent you a message first. That would free up your mind to concentrate on other things…
Dr. Jess Carbino, Tinder’s in-house sociologist, recently spoke to Business Insider about ways to make yourself more successful on the dating app.
She suggested that many men didn’t know what to say when they matched with a woman. We’re calling this virtual dry mouth. They want to talk but they just can’t get the words out.
One way Carbino thinks will improve your chances of getting a match is to make your profile more conversation friendly, by putting a question into your bio about an area or subject that interests you.
For example, if you’re into art, ask a question in your bio about who their favourite artists is. Or to put it in the most basic Irish terms, ask: “Lyons tea or Barry’s?”
Carbon said: “A lot of individuals need to have fodder to make conversation. It’s very difficult for people sometimes to put themselves forward and try to make that first move.”
Basically, come across as approachable, and give potential matches a hook to strike up a conversation with you.
If you have one of these jobs, it’s probably a help.
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